October 2017 archive

Oops! Open Mouth, Insert Foot.

I wanted to share this tale, but it’s sensitive, so I have to be careful. I don’t want to embarrass or shame anyone. With any and every volatile interaction, there’s a chance to allow emotion to overrun and blur reflection. I like to take time to decompress and see if there’s anything I can learn. …

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Unpopular Opinion

There are some things we all agree on this time of year, right?  The shorter days suck, turning the furnace on hurts a little (in the wallet), and that winter is coming. But there are less obvious things that you probably don’t think of very often, like how Bit o Honey and Mary Janes should be …

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Jake’s Screen Brain

First, a little back story.  Then the video.   Jake has a very limited diet when it comes to “cold lunch.”  He only ever brings two things to school – macaroni and cheese, and chicken noodle soup.  He loves pizza, so we were thinking about another way to get him a pizza-esque experience, without the …

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Heroic Treasure Hunt

Okay, a bit of hyperbole in the title, but who doesn’t want to be a hero? It was the evening after the Medway Lady Huskies won their semi-final game, securing themselves a berth in the final.  The kids and I were home and my mother had gone back to Millinocket.  I got a phone call …

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Consolation Hibachi

About midway into the soccer season, I made a deal with Olivia.  Her request.  If they won the championship, could I take her to Kobe?  It’s not a super big deal to go to Kobe, but neither Gabe nor Jake can stand the place.  Gabe is Captain Picky, which is obvious if you’ve ever seen …

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Bomb Appetit!

As you may have heard, Jake hit 400 subscribers on his YouTube channel the other day.  Needless to say, he was thrilled!  Thank you for all of you who helped.   For those few readers I have that aren’t friends on the book of faces, here’s the video we made where I tried to dissuade …

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How Many Ks are Too Many? I Think 2 are Plenty

You know what’s fun and civic-minded?  Coming out to an event that raises money for a local cause.  You know what’s sweaty and hard and makes me tired?  Running five whole kilometers.  You know how long a marathon is?  Like 42 kilometers!  That’s a lot of Ks.  These things can get out of hand if you’re not …

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I’d Like You To Meet Sacob and Wacob

Not to mention Tacob, Facob, and Zacob. Jake is the master of the Mii.  He loves creating them.  He’s used the same basic design for every gaming console we’ve had since the Wii.  The Wii, Wii U, and now the Nintendo Switch have all seen appearances by Jake’s alter ego.  He announced that these copies were …

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Sunday Shorts #3

Fit As A Fiddle Jake saw the doctor this week for a sports physical.  Status: healthy as a fifteen year old horse!  He’s ready.  He handled everything really well, with few exceptions.  He’s never been able to work an eye chart.  I forgot about this until I saw the medical assistant try and get him …

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Infantilizing Jacob

I saw this topic discussed on Twitter the other day and it got me thinking.  Do I infantilize Jake?  Do I infantilize others like Jake? To some extent, yes, I think so.  And I also think it’s wrong. Infantilization is when you treat someone who isn’t a child the way you would treat a child.  …

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Is It Always Going To Be This Hard?

As I lay there in Jake’s bed, stroking his hair as he sobbed into my chest, I asked him, “It’s hard, huh?”  Stupid question, I realize, but I was trying to reach out.  The way he inhaled and let out a “yeah” with his exhalation broke my heart.  Jake’s going through a couple of transitions …

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Sunday Shorts #2

It’s been a wild week around here, but at the same time not much has happened.  It’s been one soccer game after another, and a typical Maine swing in weather.  Ninety on Wednesday, and I had to scrape my windshield before heading to work this morning.  Which do you prefer in October? #StuffJakeSays Gabe is …

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