Ridiculous Boy

Quick story. Last night for dinner, I made one of those Facebook recipes.  Old Fashioned Goulash.  It was pretty good.  It may have been better if I could have found Goya Adobo seasoning at Hannaford, but alas, I could not. Knowing this Hungarian goodness would probably not be favorited by the boys, I cooked the rest …

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Mary’s Birthday Logo Bloopers

Jake is a fan of slapstick.  He loves the unexpected.  If you ask him which direction is up, he’ll point down.  He finds that kind of thing to be the pinnacle of comedy. He also fancies himself to be quite the videographer.  He loves to film himself playing video games in the basement and post …

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Creating a monster

Last August, as we sat gathered around the television watching the world’s finest athletes compete in Rio, Jake announced that he would one day like to be an Olympian.  Beth asked him what sport he would compete in.  He announced that he’d be a swimmer.  He is pretty fast in the water.   In real …

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Killing Me Softly {Guest Post By Beth}

Ever hear the song ‘Killing Me Softly’?  I used to listen to the Fugees sing it over and over.  This is kind of how I feel when I read some of my husband’s blog posts.  I’m not sure if I can put into words how it feels to have your life put into words for …

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My not-so-little drummer boy

The same child of mine who, for years, avoided a gymnasium like the plague, has become a social butterfly at the several-times-per-week high school games we now take part in.  You should see it.  It’s pretty remarkable.  It’s the loudest and most boisterous place in town on any given weeknight, but I think the fact …

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Opposite of a diary

I guess the best way to begin is to thank my readers for the outpouring of support and love from yesterday’s post. BigCalfGuy is, for me, the opposite of a diary.  I don’t write things down to keep them secret from the world.  I honestly don’t do it to receive accolades and reassurances that I’m …

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The times are changing

Way back when Jake was first diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, my biggest fear was that he’d be ostracized by his peers and feel alone. We worked very hard to make sure that didn’t happen.  Beth, in particular as stay at home Mom, worked diligently to make sure the kids in Jake’s class knew what …

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A Hero in Shiny Armor

Jake and I had a discussion the other day. We were driving in the car, and without prompting, he turned to me and asked, “Am I a good guy?” I told him that of course he was a good guy.  It bears mentioning that he usually asks questions to confirm something he already knows.  It’s …

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RIP Stone Regret

Jake is currently fascinated with the idea of death.  He talks about it often, and I see this as his way of processing out loud.  He likes to work out the details of things by repeating them, asking the same questions over and over, and re-checking to see if your opinion has changed.   I say fascinated to …

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Mike’s Kindness Lesson

The ASM’s Family Retreat Weekend could aptly be renamed The Weekend of the Perpetually Wet Towel.  The kids spend so much time in and out of the pool that the towels never fully dry.  The dorms have no dryers, so I take advantage of any and all opportunities to dry their stuff. The family had …

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Mind readers, balloon animals, and dead fish.

Day two and we’re having a banner day! The routine is pretty simple.  We get up, get dressed, and have breakfast in the cafeteria.  Says Gabe, “The only thing around here better than dinner is breakfast!”  After we’ve eaten, we meet up with our respite providers and the kids take off towards their scheduled events. …

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Autism Rock Wall College

Today we arrived at the Autism Society of Maine’s annual Family Retreat Weekend.  It’s been held at St. Joseph’s College for the past few years (4?), and it’s the highlight of Jake’s calendar.  Unable to fully recite the name of the event, he simply refers to it as Autism Rock Wall College. It’s a wonderfully …

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