You cannot teach a crab to walk straight.
This is another quote that means a lot to me. I work in healthcare, and I work with people who get into trouble with their bodies based sometimes on choices they’ve made. Not choices I’d have made, but choices they have made. It’s not my job to judge them or argue lifestyle with anybody, rather to help them to the best of my ability.
Some people aren’t going to change, and there’s nothing I can do to make it happen.
Autism is another front on which I am reminded of this. There are things Jake won’t do, and some things Jake can’t do. It’s important to remember the difference, and not to get too hung up on the things he can’t do. Those things aren’t his fault. Again, it’s my job to teach and coach and adapt the world to fit the boy; just as it’s often my job to adapt the boy to fit the world. Knowing the crabs from the donkeys (stubborn) is key.