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Success!

Monday, we discussed the starting of Jake’s Sophomore year at school.  His big concern, in fact his only concern, was about Outdoor PE.  He hated the idea of having gym class outside, especially on wet or cold days.  He had asked us if he could change it, and we told him if he wanted to …

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Jake’s Sophomore Year

Things can and must change.  This is the nature of things.  Also the nature of boys.  Jake is a newly minted Sophomore this year, and he’s already off and running.  The school has a new principal, and Jake has been talking about how much he wants to “respect Mr. Ring” for weeks.  He has promised …

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Confessions Of An Autism Dad: I’m Making This Stuff Up As I Go Along

The other day I gave Gabe some advice I’m conflicted about. Beth and I took different cars to church, as we were headed in different directions when it was over. Jake rode with Beth and Liv; Gabe came with me. Before we could pull out of the driveway fully (we had already begun), Jake jumped …

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4 Things Parents of Kids With Special Needs Wish You Wouldn’t Say: A Reaction

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I saw this post today while cruising on Facebook. It’s from the Washington Post. It’s entitled: “4 things parents of kids with special needs wish you wouldn’t say.” The author, Mari-Jane Williams, begins with a description of her son, how he’s like many 10-year olds in most ways, and then segues into that moment when …

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Bad Day Update

So, it’s been a couple of days since Jake freaked and kicked a network of cracks into Beth’s minivan.  (That post can be found here.)  I had received such an outpouring, I thought I should offer an update. We’ve decided to keep the broken windshield for a while.  It’s not as big as the picture …

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A Bigger Issue Than I Thought

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Jake and I took a trip to Bangor on Saturday; just the two of us.  He had a dentist appointment.  More on that in the next post.  We went out to lunch afterwards, and grabbed some things at WalMart on the way home.  Simple trip.  Jake loves to drive the cart, but it was crowded …

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The time Beth almost killed Jake

It was a 30 second exchange, but it made me smile when I heard about it, and I wanted to share. Beth said to Jake, “pick your coat up off the floor.” Jake replies, exasperated, “Oh, for Christ’s sake!” Beth looks at him in complete astonishment and remembers the middle part of Bare Naked Ladies’ …

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You Can’t Tell Me What To Do!

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So we’re at dinner tonight, in a restaurant, and Beth tells Jake to sit down.  A common request.  Probably not the first time he’d heard it tonight, either.  Instead of complying, he tries out a new phrase:  “You can’t tell me what to do.”  Without saying a word, Beth turns and stares at Jake.  She …

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Licking Peanuts

Licking peanuts, you ask?  Let me explain. I can only imagine how different parenting would be in a world without the technology of today. For example, I’m not sure Beth or I have ever intoned, “just wait until your ___ gets home.” With texting, Face Time, cellular phones, and even Skype, the other parent is …

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Thursday Recap

I had the best day today. It was one of those days where a marriage is a partnership in a bigger corporation – a divide and conquer sort of thing.  We met at the Scootic In for a birthday lunch.  It’s Jan’s (my PTA student) 40th birthday, and I got to treat her out. After …

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Measured – And Found Wanting

Google “How to Raise Happy Kids” and you’ll get 28,500,000 search results. Everyone’s got an opinion on this one, but I’m not going to bore you with mine. Most lists are pretty consistent: affirm them, set structure and limits for them, allow them opportunities for mastery, pretend and play with them, yada – yada –yada. …

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Can You Keep A Secret?

I’m not supposed to be writing this. I worked all day yesterday at the nursing home where I moonlight on weekends, then spent the next several hours on the computer writing a post, reviewing a book and putting together a Rafflecopter giveaway.  Oh, and I completed the Clinical Performance Instrument to grade my PTA student, …

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