The Underwear Rule

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I’ve been waiting for this: A simple, straightforward way to help kids stay safe from sexual abuse.

One of the big fears of any parent is that your child will be sexually abused. It’s one of those things that you can’t get back. It causes irrevocable damage and can seriously impact future, otherwise healthy relationships.  Sadly, some resources show that at least 90% of children are abused by people they know.

I especially worry about this with Jake, as he may not fully understand the implications. He even changes in a private bathroom after gym, rather than in the locker room with the other boys. It’s not that changing in a locker room isn’t a normal part of growing up, or that we’re afraid of the other boys, but the temptation to get the “weird” kid to do something humiliation for laughs is just too great. Even a 2% chance of an occurrence is too much for me to bear.

With their acronym P.A.N.T.S., the NSPCC has given parents an easy way to discuss what they call the Underwear Rule with kids.

The Underwear Rule teaches kids that their body belongs to them and no one is allowed to make them do things they don’t want to do. In short, if your underwear covers the part – it’s private and off-limits.

Here’s how it works:

Taken directly from the NSPCC website.

Taken directly from the NSPCC website.

I went to the website and downloaded my free, 12 page guide to P.A.N.T.S.  You should do the same.  It’s very easy.

It’s incredibly important to have this talk with your kids, and to have it often. 

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  1. Thank you for the article, I shared this and will be teaching my son when he’s of age !

    • Zie on October 24, 2014 at 6:04 pm
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    One of our children is also autistic and one is ADHD like her dad. The other two are into everything! Thank you for posting this! I have been trying to figure out how to deal with this subject and this is so helpful it is almost unreal!

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